This past Saturday my sons and I went to visit Tamara and her family while she’s here. Her kids would not even come out and play on the slip n slide; I thought that was so funny.
My boys and I enjoyed playing in their beautiful backyard and we didn’t let the rain scare us away. We slipped N slid as the rain drenched us. It felt surreal to me. Thinking back, I believe that image in my mind of me standing there soaking wet from the rain and the sound of their laughter will become one of my most treasured memories.
I guess good vibes are contagious because the rest of my weekend went great! I love working at Denny’s. Did I mention that I quit that commission based job. Too much money going into driving down there and paying for parking everyday and not enough reward, plus, when I think of the type of people that are successful there I absolutely know that I have no desire to be like them. Their character…no way, that’s not me.
The best thing is, as soon as I quit that job Denny’s offered me another shift. ~smiling~ See how that works? When you let go of something that is not good for you, you leave space for something better to replace it. It happens everytime if we are fearless enough to let go.
I have even more amazing news.
Last week my friend Donovan Daniels and I decided to work together to begin his career as a success coach and motivational speaker. Donovan (not his real name) has so much powerful information to share and I get to help him develop his image, brand and market him as a speaker. Yay! Now the world gets to see what I see when I look at him.
And…I’m getting PAID for it! I always forget to ask about payment when someone needs my help. It’s as though being able to be of service to someone is payment enough for me but I gotta eat and my BBDD needs his child support… but Donovan didn’t even flinch when I mentioned payment. So now my dream of working from home has come true! I can’t believe it!
You know what’s crazy? Remember that I met Donovan when I was 13 and have always had a huge crush on him sort of like the fantasy crush that I have on Kanye. But…as I get to know him, he is way more amazing than I imagined. He knows how to deal with me patiently. He knows the power of reacting to situations with poise. He’s nothing like my BBDD. I can not imagine him ever saying a harsh word to me. And he’s so successful and wise and his heart is aimed at educating people about making better choices for their lives. He has done nothing to show me that he is not a good person and that is important for me in a friendship. I am very strict about that stuff. I don’t make friends easily because if I even SENSE that a person is dishonest or too negative, I don’t accept their calls or hang out with them anymore. I’ve never had to do that with Donovan.
I look forward to working with him to develop his signature products, develop an online presence and watching him grow as a speaker/teacher, which he already does for his company.
I had a crazy dream about us the other day. He and I were working together at a table and we were laughing and talking and it looked like we were flirting when his wife walked in. Then her friends came in too and he got up and walked away. She walked away too and her friends stood there and glared at me and I was like, “what?”
“We need to talk to you,” one of her friends said to me.
“No,” I said and walked away. But then my bestfriend Tamara caught up with me and tried to lecture me but I cut her short when I reminded her that I always make the best decisions for my life and she should know I would never intentionally hurt someone like that.
Today I picked my sons up from school to take them to dinner and show them my printed manuscript for my book. They asked me to read some of it to them and I did. After I was done I guess my thoughts shifted and I got lost in a fantasy because I snapped out of it when my younger son said, “Mommy, are you in love?” He then started laughing and laughing.
Funny thing is…I was thinking/fantasizing about the success that Donovan will experience with me on his side. I really believe in his abilities and with my gifts, he’s going to go far.
In fact, I’ve already booked him a speaking engagement.
Today I was on campus trying to tie up the loose ends with the scholarship application that I am submitting and then I picked up the application for the Counseling honor society. I was invited to join last week and now I have to do 10 hours of community service and get a faculty member to endorse me and I’ll be inducted in December. I’m so excited! I’ve never been in the honor society before. Not even in elementary school. I can’t wait to take my boys so they can see me holding my candle and pledging to uphold the standards..blah blah blah…
I’m a SCHOLAR!
But that’s not it!
So today while I was talking to the honor society lady, who is a nun working on her doctorate, another lady was there and I heard her mention my old high school. It turns out that this lady is the director of the College Reach.OUT program and for our university, it means holding group therapy sessions and workshops for at risk youth in public high schools across Miami.
After introducing myself, she invited me to stop by her office to talk and I did. While I was there she explained her program and how it is aimed to help teens break through the psychological barriers that are preventing them from obtaining higher education.
WOWSA!
That’s exactly the type of program that I outlined a year ago. My workshops were all about teaching teens about to develop healthy relationships because I sure wish someone had told me what being honored in a friendship and romantic relationship was like. She offered me a spot on her team and I’ll get to lead group therapy sessions as well as present my workshop to teens all across the county. The best part is, Donovan will be able to present his success workshop too!
I’m so excited about all that is happening. And I’m soo proud of my boys!
Today while I waited for my older son to gather his things at aftercare, he told me a story that made me proud.
“Mama, guess what?”
“What’s up Boo Boo?”
“My friends Darren and Chester are not speaking to each other anymore. They say they hate each other.”
“Oh yeah?”
“Yes, but I have a plan. All I have to do is have a party and invite them both and then we’ll all play and they’ll be friends again.”
“That’s a great plan baby!” I said and kissed him on the cheek. “It’s good that you want to help them be friends again. Let me know when you want to have your party.”
See how wonderful my kids are!
I am so proud to be their Mommy!
Man…I really don’t know if I could have asked for better jits than the ones I got. After dinner tonight they beamed as we picked out all kinds of tasty treats at the grocery store for my cousin who is having a bit of a financial crunch. When she saw all the groceries we bought for her, her mouth dropped and she said, “Girl, I have no food at all. I can’t believe you did this.”
I don’t know why I did that either and I almost changed my mind about doing it but something inside me told me to buy groceries for her house when I had no idea what kind of situation she was in.
I am so glad I listened. I remember when someone did that for me back when I was pregnant with my first son and my BBDD was AWOL. I had no money, no job, no food and I was miserable and one day my sorority sister just came over with bags of groceries and I cried and cried.
It feels so good to be able to return the favor.