Today was such a wonderful day.
I slept most of the morning because I was up all night trying to figure out why I couldn’t “imagine” how this situation could turn out positively. My imagination is usually very extravagant but for the life of me I couldn’t conjure up any images of a positive transition.
I decided to do an internet search to find other bloggers who believe in the power of projection and expectation in the spirit realm and lo and behold, behold and lo- I found one!
I was so excited to find The Universal Flow! She was a journalist like me and now she is a life coach. She is a lover of my girl Florence Scovel Shinn, the metaphyisican and author of The Game Of Life & How To Play It. This is amazing to me because I rarely find other bloggers who think and live like I do.
Right now she is blogging about manifesting her mate. She decided to record the process for all of her readers, believing in faith that it will come to pass.
Reading her blog caused me to reflect on my own desire for companionship and support from a man. I decided at that moment that there’s nothing wrong with wanting that.
I heard of people compiling lists of the qualities they’d like to see in their future mate but I thought that was for the desperate who were trying to pacify their desires by making up some imaginary man. Last night I said, “It won’t hurt.” So I started my list.
Let me tell you–it was soooo much fun!
It literally lifted my spirits to write about all the ways that we will be perfect for each other and how my personality, body and gifts were made just right for him. More than a MUST-HAVE list for men, it’s really a sign that I know what I want and a sign to God that I believe I will receive it.
Today I told Tamara about my list and she said that she couldn’t make one because she didn’t know what she wanted. I suggested that she take a look at her close friendships and pull out those qualities that cause her to love them unconditionally. Then I suggested that she look at past relationships and see what made her love them too.
I believe all signs of those characteristics point to the one you were destined to receive.
I’d marry my friends if they had penis’s!
I’d marry Tamara because:
She is always so even tempered. No matter how emotional I get or how flustered I am she never returns those same emotions to me. If I’m frustrated and taking it out on her, she’ll simply stop me and ask sofly, “What’s wrong? You seem upset.” Her temperate spirit always calms me down and no matter what we go through, we trust that each has the other’s best interest at heart. She never hides things from me even when she knows I will disagree. She will still let me into the truth of her heart and that honors me. She loves me unconditionally and that is the truth.
I’d marry Kim because:
Kim is like my future husband in female form, beautiful, sophisticated and always encouraging. She NEVER has a negative word to say-EVER. And even when I do things that she doesn’t necessarily think are wise, she will flip it and explain to me how my actions could turn out to be a blessing. She doesn’t believe there are mistakes, just lessons to be learned. She holds me high up on a pedestal and believes in my dreams FOR ME when I sometimes lose heart. Everytime she talks about her bright future she always mentions that I am right there sharing it with her. I love her everyday for that.
I’d marry Anna because:
Anna is that ride or die chick. If you want to have a good time, you know you can call Anna and she will deliver. If you want to go to church, she’s right there to praise God with you. If you want to smoke a blunt, she’ll roll it up and pass it. She never judges and never discourages you from doing what you want to do. Her motto is, “It’s your life. Live it!” She is never mean spirited, NEVER. She only likes to bless people.
I’d marry Ruby because:
She listens to me and encourages me in every way. Once we got into an aggressive conversation, I shut down and told her, “I don’t like that.” She never did it again. She speaks softly to me and just like Anna, she’s down for the cause! Although we both have dominant personalities, we don’t clash like I do with other friends who are dominant. I usually allow her to take the drivers seat because I trust her judgement and she always says that I am so easy to hang with because of that. It’s about trusting that she is not going to put me in a situation where I am uncomfortable. She knows me well enough to anticipate what will make me happy and she does those things for me without me even asking.
I wouldn’t marry my Ex Bernard, but I do enjoy having conversations with him more than any other man I know. He is so damn smart! I love hearing his opinion and he knows how to explain things to me in a way that is easy to understand without judging me harshly because I don’t know about those things. He loves to discuss world issues and politics and how they affect our race. He’s an independent thinker like I am, unafraid to toss aside the beliefs that society forces on us and he’s confident enough to know what he likes and not settle for anything less.
I love my friend Lem because he is the only man who has ever loved me unconditionally. Even when I hurt him in the past, he never deserted me. He spoils me. I can’t mention a need without him offering to take care of it or at least pray for me about it. He always reminds me that no matter who he is with, I will forever hold a place in his heart.
I wouldn’t marry my BBDD, but I’d like a man who is intelligent like him. He’s also charming and I love the way he laughs. He’s a great father and exposes our children to things I never experienced as a child. He’s very much ambitious. Even though he’s big and black, he doesn’t come across as intimidating. He honors people all the time and I admire that quality in men.
If my friend Mike weren’t already married, I’d marry him because he is so sweet to me. When I told him that may be moving back to Miami, he immediatey offered to make a set of CD’s for my road trip with handpicked songs that he’d like to expose me to. How thoughtful! He’s also very dedicated to his family and wants lots of children. He brags about his daughter all the time and we spend time talking about different ways to spoil his wife.
If my friend Leon weren’t already married, he’d be my boyfriend because he’s always trying to improve himself and he spoils and honors his wife and considers her to be his gift from God.
In addition to all of those qualities, I’d love to meet a man of strong faith who treats me as if I am a precious rose petal, or a pair of brand new white sneakers. I want to feel protected and provided for, supported and appreciated. I want to feel safe when I’m with him.
At the end of my list I made sure to add, “And God…feel free to add any other qualities that would make me cry with joy!”
Those things aren’t too much to ask for in a man because…I see these qualities in my friends so I know they are out there.
Check out this article on my blogsite titled, Make Room For Your Soul Mate. It was written by a reader of this blog and she did an excellent job.