I am fascinated by women and the relationships they get into.

It’s amazing how different people’s lives turn out. It’s crazy that most of the women I know are single. So many single men out there. So many single women. Everyone is hollering about how they can’t find anyone decent to be with. These are the stories of a few dating situations of people I know, I won’t name real names, but maybe you can identify with one of them.

Jackie is cool and loose with hers. Everyone enjoys being around her because she always makes the night more fun. She’s had a string of boyfriends, none of them lasting too long and all of them being, “a work in progress” meaning she has to teach them how treat her right. She had to school them on where to take her, how to act and how to set goals for themselves. Jackie is so tired of being every man’s teacher. She wants to meet at least ONE man who has it together.

Candice reminds me of Alicia Keyes. So remarkably pretty yet when she opens her mouth, you’re like, what the… Rugged. Candice has only had a few boyfriends in her lifetime but every last one of them is still in love with her and refers to her as the one who got away. In fact, even though they date other women, they compare every woman to her. She is very frustrated right now because she’s tired of breaking men’s hearts. For some reason men can’t be friends with her, they want to marry her and lock her down, but she’s not ready for that. She just got out of a relationship with a georgeous, sweetheart of a man. I love him, he adores her, but she says she knows he’s not the one. She won’t even entertain any man that approaches her because she says she doesn’t want to deal with him falling in love with her because she’s not ready for that.

Leslie is tall and thin. The type of woman that can wear anything and look good. She makes me so sick! She is in school, has a good job and basically has a good head on her shoulders. I saw her the other night and she said, “I hate men.” Her boyfriend of over a year is behaving questionably and although she has no proof, she hates the fact that she feels she can’t trust him. She also hates the fact that she hasn’t been acting right herself. For the longest she has been in love with another man who belongs to someone else. She doesn’t believe in true love.

Kiah just graduated from college and is considering graduate school. She has been dating off and on but no one serious. She can’t get serious because everytime she is with a man she is secretly longing for her X. No one compares to him. His body, his face, his love. She wanted to be his wife, but he decided he didn’t want that at the last minute and broke off the engagement. She still wants him and she’s considering doing something about it.

Terri is every man’s fantasy. Tall, big booty and educated. She has a boyfriend of almost a year that she is in love with. He’s handsome, wealthy and wants to marry her. The problem is, she hasn’t heard from the Lord concerning him yet. And she doesn’t want to marry this man without God’s blessing. She wishes he was more on fire for God.

Dominique has always been the most popular girl, and when she became a woman she didn’t lose her spark that made people, especially men, flock to her. She dated from time to time, searching for love but never really found it. Men often put her on a pedestal when they met her. Her good looks and charming personality put her in a class by herself. But what most men didn’t realize that although she was amazingly pretty and smart, she was still human and humans aren’t perfect. So when she did something that didn’t line up with this Miss Perfect image that they had of her, they were extremely dissappointed and began to treat her differently. Finally she met a man who is cool enough to hang out with and be a real friend. They started dating and she can’t believe what a wonderful person he is. He holds her in high esteem but still keeps her in check. She loves that. With him she can be funky, funny and free. But in the back of her mind she wonders, “Is this real? Will he walk away like all the others?” And this mindframe causes her to hold back on showing him how much she truly loves him.

When can a woman find love? Will she accept it when it comes or are there hidden hang-ups that cause her to miss out on what she had been hoping for all along?