Delicious Black Men

There’s a new era emerging.

I can feel it in the heat. Something is happening. Is this a phase? Is this a stage? Can we the Black women of America in our mid 20’s to early 30’s be at the stage where we actually meet the love of our lives?

Amazing conversations all around as my girls check in with me on the status of their relationships. It seems like quite a few have found their winners. Quite a few have found men they describe as patient, loving and successful.

My friend Mil says when she sees her man, she can’t believe a man as fine as he is, wants to be with her. No, this chick does not have low self esteem, she is just that in AWE of his beauty and everything else about him, from the way he treats her, to the way he treats himself. Problem is, he receives everything she is giving him- all the love and sweetness. But because of his past pain with women, he doesn’t believe she’s being real.

The more she proves herself to be honest, faithful and kind- the more he withdraws from her. She’s waiting on him and believing that one day he will understand that she is real and she really does love him.

I feel him on his apprehension though. I mean, after a lifetime of dissapointment and heartbreak, some chick comes along and treats you well. You smile and accept it cuz they ALL act like this in the beginning. After a few months you’re looking for the big hairy monster but she hasn’t surfaced yet. All you’re getting is an educated, patient, big breasted chick who loves to have sex and thinks you are amazing. Come on! That doesn’t REALLY happen… But it has. And he does not believe it is true and he definately doesnt believe it will last! But it has. It’s been well over a year. She’s single with no children and she adores him. And most importantly, she’s willing to wait for him.

I’ll never forget my sorority sister. I brag about her all the time. After a series of unsuccesful relationships and men who place expectations on her that are hard to live up to, she finally found her match. The most beautiful thing she said about him is, “He is exactly like my father, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.” They are busy planning for the birth of their first child, their wedding and the purchase of their first home. God is so wonderful. Good things happen to good people.

My homegirl Anna is settling down too. After years of playing the dating game, she has realized one thing, her man loves her. He loves her stretch marks and her jelly belly. He accepts the fact that she likes to hang out. He accepts all of her, just the way she is. And unbeknownst to her, that is what she had been hoping for this entire time.

I can’t leave out my homie Mimi. Remember she got married last October.I called her yesterday because I was in the mood to hear a positive story about relationships and she gave me an earful. “He doesn’t have to do anything extra to get my love,” she said. “With him I feel emotionally safe.” Emotionally safe. Emotionally safe. We can all only HOPE to one day be with a man who we can trust all of our emotions with.

And the best BEST part about all of these women I have mentioned, they are all with BLACK MEN. ~smile~

There ARE good BLACK MEN out there. It seems like they’re all hiding out but these great women managed to attract them and we can too. These lucky women found their blessing in the place they least expected it. It’s time to step outside the box and try something or someone we never looked at before.