Consider the Source

My friend called me tonight with a story.

After another friend of hers inquired about her past relationship, she informed her that there was nothing to speak of and the friend convinced her that she didn’t have closure and should reconnect with the man from her past with an offer of friendship.

This friends words shook the peace my friend had and my friend took her advice. She emailed him, reaching out to him, requesting a renewal of friendship and she even received a response from him.

She called me asking me to read the letter. I did.

She asked me, “Do you sense a connection in the words we wrote to each other?”

I was quiet.

“Tee? What do you think?”

I was quiet, considering my words carefully.

“Don’t you EVER listen to that ol broke down hoe again! That bitch ain’t got no man! She lonely and trying to create drama in your life for her own entertainment. It makes NO SENSE for you to be trying to open up some shit that he closed. He didn’t recognize your worth before and now you’re trying to play Superangel and show him that no matter what you’ll be there for him. Why? He sholl ain’t trying to play that role for you. Remember what Donovan said? When it’s the man God has for you, you won’t be able to STOP him from loving you!”

“Consider the source!” I challenged her. “Don’t you think I have to hear from people all over the country about what they think I should do. They call me with authority and offer their opinions and I listen and just shrug it off it’s not what I want to do. Sometimes I do get all emotional when people try to tell me what they think I should feel or do, but then I realize that when it’s advice being presented from God, it brings peace, not confusion or anxiety or causes me to backtrack on what I originally felt peace about. Consider the source! That hoe ain’t in no way a role model for you! Do you want to be like her when you grow up? Hell no! Be YOU. Know your value. Know that you don’t have to position yourself to attract or keep a man.”

“Please dawg…” I pleaded with her. “Don’t be like me. I need somebody to get it right. Learn from my stupidity. Don’t be like me. Get it right the first time so you won’t have to go through the healing process.”