And The Answer Is…

My responses to your 3 questions.

What is your biggest regret? (if any)

Hmm. I think I regret not keeping my job until I found another one. But hey, it was a tough lesson learned. My advice to everyone- DON’T quit your job, it’s rough out here.

Who do you look up to and why?

I look up to my all of my friends. Each one of them possesses qualities that I don’t have and I would love for them to rub off on me. In particular, my friend Mimi, she’s so patient and giving and a true example of unconditional love.

If your life could be any way you wanted it to be right now, what would it be like?

Ahhh. I can see it now, me sitting at home much like I am now, writing novels and calling my agent to see what speaking engagements she has lined up for me. My boys and I would be living in a nice house and I’d be able to travel and inspire others to keep on keeping on through life’s ups and downs. I’d really love to host my own talk show. That’s my biggest dream.

If you had a choice between love, fame and fortune, which would you choose?

Love wins out because without love I’d be miserably rich and wouldn’t enjoy it.

How did you know that you wanted to write?

I never WANTED to write. I just write. I even think about writing when I’m not writing. It’s not a choice for me. It’s as natural as breathing.

How does it feel to be responsible for the shaping of 2 young people’s lives? Isn’t it so scary?

Yes, it is a little unnerving. Especially because I have two boys and I don’t want them to be feminine like me. I wish they could be around their dad more, cuz even though he’s a jerk to me, he is extremely ambitious and he knows he’s very intelligent. I just pray daily that I will be enough for them until God sends a righteous man my way. Until then I lean on my family for support and love my sons HARD everyday, trying to be an example of God’s love.

I’ve learned that it takes at least TWO to raise children. Each parent has a role to play. I’ve stopped beating myself up for not being able to play both roles. It’s the price that I have to pay for not doing things the right way (waiting until I was in a God given relationship before I had children).

And the bonus question: Do you think I write well enough to be publishable? The opinion of an unbiased stranger would be nice to hear.

You write well, yes it’s a fact. I love your blog. You express yourself well.

Can I hold a few dollas?

Damn, niccas always begging.

Do I have to pay you back?

If you don’t I’ll take your first born child.

If so nevermind!

Crack addict.

Do you like peanut butter?

Not without jelly.

What 5 cds are in your car right now?

Only one, the first Mary Mary CD. It got stuck in the CD player, my CD player hasn’t worked in about a year. I listen to the radio.

If the pool table is green, like the earth. how come the game is over when the white ball knocks all the colored balls into their holes. and the game finishes when the white ball gets rid of the black ball? (hidden racism?)-boomerang

D- you’re too deep for me. LOL

Gulity pleasures?

Black and milds. I have too much time on my hands.

Favorite book?

The Grapes of Wrath. I couldn’t put it down.

Favorite vacation spots?

Vacation? Who me? I guess since I’m not working right now,I’m kinda on a vacation.

Favorite chill spots?

I usually chill at home. My favorite times are when I’m with Anna and we’re just talking about life. When I want to get away I head straight to the book store. The ones here aren’t as nice as the ones in Gainesville though. Someone needs to sweep once in a while cuz I like to sit on the floor and read for free.

What is your favorite scripture?

Luke 1:45 Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!”

I have a PURPOSE and it will be fulfilled.

What motivates you?

The fact that I KNOW what I am placed on earth to do. I’m just trying to find my way to an established end.

Do you have a 5 or 10 year plan? if so what is it?

I HAD a five year plan, but it didn’t go accordingly. Now, I just take things one day at a time, recognizing my goals and not being upset that they aren’t happening RIGHT NOW. I’ve learned that God’s timing is not always MY timing. The biggest thing is to not allow my expectations for my life to move me to forget God’s promise for my life which is that He will never leave me nor forsake me. He’s got my back.

Salt or Sugar on your rice?

Too much rice as a kid has caused me to cut back as an adult. I rarely eat it. Sugar on rice? I’ve honestly never tried that.

How is it really living in the MIA? (I’ve been there but how is it on the real)

It’s discouraging at times. The Hispanic population is overwhelming and my lack of bilingual skills puts me at a loss in the job market. Besides that, it’s magnificient. The scenery, the billion places to go and hang out. The way the city is always vibing and changing. I love it here.

My only concern is the lack of positive male role models for my sons. I don’t want them to grow up idolizing the boys on the corners.

When are you running for president?

LOL! Never considered it.

When is the best time for you to get some writing done?

I write best around 11pm. It’s that old college school work schedule that’s still with me. Plus, my sons have to be in the bed before I can really concentrate.

What is your favorite fiction genre?

Umm… I like Black authors. I don’t read science fiction or mysteries or crime novels.

Who are your favorite authors?

I can’t really say I have a favorite. If someone recommends a book to me, I’ll read it. When I go to the bookstore, I pick up any book that looks enticing. No sex books though. I’m so over that romance mess.