The other night I watched a movie that was so good that I have to blog about it.
It’s called I’m Through With White Girls
This movie is an independent low budget film that was shot by a hand held camera over the course of 24 days. Filmed in LA it features some familiar faces in its cast as well as a few newcomers. I have yet to watch a film that had me captivated like this one.
The main character (Jay) had angst about turning 30 and still being single, so he decides that the reason he is single has something to do with the fact that every white girl he dates is crazy. The movie opens with a large number of white women reading ‘Dear John’ notes that he left behind due to the fact that he does not like to confront women.
He believes Black women won’t date him because he’s nerdy so he won’t even approach them. He’s really cute and smart and he and his friends decide to do Operation Brown Sugar to help him find his lady.
That doesn’t turn out to be a good idea since the Black women he meets aren’t a good match for him either. So he meets this other chick named Catherine. She is amazing and all of his friends can tell that she is the one for him. He can’t. He tries to brush her off just like the rest, demonstrating his fear of relationships.
It turns out that he wasn’t just unlucky at love, he was actually sabotaging his relationships our of fear. Does that remind you of anyone?
Geesh! I do that all the time. I do it knowingly.
You’ll have to watch to see what happens at the end but Ima tell u one thing…if he doesnt stay with that chick..I want her. She was sooo much like me it was scary and I was attracted to her character. I thought she was hot.
I actually cried during one scene that wasn’t even sad. It was the scene where she offers him a ride and when he opens her passenger door, there’s a pile of trash and clothes in the front seat. She starts talking to him while throwing the garbage and papers into the backseat like it wasn’t nothing. I howled in laughter and then I cried because…my car looks JUST like that. I don’t really care..but I figured that was just another thing that made me unloveable. I just…never thought I’d ever see a movie where the main love interest had issues like mine and someone still loved her.
I still can’t imagine sitting across from a man and him smiling at me, actually enjoying being there, not wanting anything but to be close to me.
I’d love to study this movie more extensively. One thing I noticed was the fact that he EXPECTED every break up he had. Instead of expecting a lasting relationship, he often said, “I don’t want the break up to be about….” He said it as though he KNEW it was coming.
We always get what we expect. In fact, we DEMAND it.
I gotta change my attitude but..its not as easy as I make it sound. I think I get a charge out of proving myself right time and time again. No man loves me. Every man uses me. Every man is disgusted by me. I make that my truth every day.
At least this movie made me smile…I watched it twice and loved it both times.