Baby Mama Day?

I got a text message from a friend of mine that read, “Happy Baby Mama Day!”

I rolled my eyes. His ass is always trying to be funny. So, I don’t get a Happy MOTHER’S Day greeting just because the “man” I had children from decided he didn’t wanna stay?

LOL! I’m just playing! I’m not THAT sensitive (all the time). I laughed at his sad attempt at humor. It was kinda funny…

I don’t mind being called a Baby Mama. I mean, words only have the power that you give them. Curse words are only insults if you take it as an insult. I call my friend Dianna my HOE. She never gets mad at me about that. Why should she?

Yep, I am a Baby Mama. Which basically means, I have absolutely no romantic or emotional ties to the father of my children, so to him, I am simply the mother of his children. I think the terms baby mama and baby daddy were created to express a severe detachment from the other parent. And in my situation, it’s true. My Baby Daddy and I are not friends, we don’t even like each other. He is simply my BABY DADDY and an annoying one at that.

But this is MY DAY! It’s Mother’s Day. And regardless of what name you want to call me or what judgements you want to pass, I can sit here and say for myself that I am doing a WONDERFUL job raising my sons. I may not know what to do at every given moment, but somehow things get handled, my sons are happy and they are growing up with a lot of love.

For the woman sitting there tired and weary, upset because of people who look down on her because she’s a single mom and criticize her decisions- YOU CAN MAKE IT! No mother in the world, no matter how perfect she looks, has it all together. None of us know what we’re doing, we just follow our hearts and our instincts which guide us to make the best decisions for our children.

When men CAN and DO walk away, we must stay and bear the burden alone. When the man can plant his seed and move on, we must carry it and nurture it. When the men in your life act like it’s no big deal to raise a child just know that they could NEVER do it. NEVER!

We weren’t made to do this alone, but because of selfishness, sin and lack of self love, we end up in this difficult situation and like it or not we have to push forward. No matter how much your Mother criticizes you, no matter how many times that “friend” who helped raise her little brother tells you what you NEED to do, just know that you will be okay. Trust yourself to make the right decisions for you and your child. Trust that it’s okay to ask for help sometimes too. Trust God who blessed you with the responsibility of motherhood. He will see you through.

There’s not a position in the world that I would trade for motherhood. Seriously, it gets hectic all the time, but the positive experiences outweigh the negative ones.

I just wanna say Thank God for healthy children and the opportunity to be a Mother. Children are such tremendous blessings because a man and a woman together are just a couple, but when that couple has a child it makes them a family.

I am proud of my family and proud to be me.

Happy Mother’s Day!